How to keep your kids on the nice list

Christmas with kids is supposed to be one of the best parts of being a parent. But a change of routine, arguing over presents and over-indulgence can all make your child’s behaviour a Christmas nightmare.

Kate Simpson - Early Years Specialist Practitioner, and Fran Breed - Health and Family Support Worker, from Sure Start, gave us their top tips on managing your child’s behaviour at Christmas.

Stick to your routine

It’s difficult with so much going on, but try to stick to your routine as much as possible. This will help you keep a sense of normality and show that your normal rules still apply.

If children are staying with grandparents or with their other parent, have discussions beforehand on how you manage behaviour so that it’s consistent for your child.

Encourage sharing

With all those new toys, there are bound to be disagreements!

It’s natural for young children to think of themselves, so they find the concept of sharing very difficult. Don’t expect young children to want to share their brand new toy – we wouldn’t want to share our Christmas gifts!

Be realistic with your expectations, and give children time to enjoy their gifts before expecting them to share.

You can encourage sharing by setting a time limit using visuals. For example, say ‘when the big hand on the clock gets to the top’, use an egg timer if you have one or set the alarm on your phone. Give lots of praise for sharing and lead by example.

Use praise and positive language

If you only give your child attention for negative behaviour, it’s easy to see why they might want to act up. Try to stay positive, and make sure you notice the good things.

Your time is the best gift

It might sound cheesy, but your presence really is the best present. Children still need quality one to one time, otherwise negative behaviour will present itself.

Choose your battles

Behaviour will be different due to tiredness, being over excited and too much sugar. Keep this in mind and try to have realistic expectations over the Christmas period.

Stay calm and smile!

Don’t put pressure on yourself for everything to be perfect - the things which go wrong can end up being the best family stories!

Try to stay calm and enjoy yourself, and you’ll find everyone ends up in a better mood.


If you’re still struggling with your child’s behaviour after Christmas, you can get advice from your local Sure Start centre.